Condemning sex before marriage and encouraging chasteness has been difficult task for society.
Society is constantly fighting against premarital sex but their goals have not been achieved.
Premarital sex is a sexual relationship between two people before marriage.
This act is done through continuous kissing, embracing, or doing anything that causes emotional feelings or arousal. This act is mostly found among the youth, adolescents, and young adults who are not married.
Premarital sex in some way can be caused by rape, incest, and defilement.
In most Ghanaian society especially the Christian society, premarital sex is an abomination because it is seen as fornication which has a negative connotation.
In the Christian home, they see it as something that God forbids in the Bible while in the traditional society the young child is thought to be chaste until some puberty rites are performed to transform the girl child into marriage and this also applies to the Islamic home.
Society thinks sex before marriage is the best way of staying safe and without contracting Sexual Transmitted Infections (STIs) like HIV/AIDS, gonorrhea, syphilis, and any other sexually transmitted diseases.
The Bible also says staying chaste until marriage is the best and that is what God is expecting from everyone as it says in 1 Corinthians 5:1: “I can hardly believe the report about the sexual immorality going on among you something that even pagans don’t do…”
After all said and done, most adult human beings naturally desire sex because it comes naturally. On the concept of chastity, having sex does not make you a dirty or “impure” person.
Having sex becomes a pleasure for people where they satisfy themselves through it. Getting marriage is never a way of protecting yourself against the harmful, bad, and the danger sex that comes with it. What we know is waiting until marriage before sex makes you pure but we don’t focus on the ethics and precautions sex comes with.
Sexual morality is not about how long you will wait but how you will carry yourself and the people you get yourself with.
The “wait till marriage” thing is not going to protect you from heartache, frustration, or even love loss but whether you have sex before marriage or after marriage, we are going to find ourselves in any of these.
Sex before marriage or after marriage comes with both negative and positive sides. Sex can improve your cardiovascular health. This is because having sex will keep the hormones estrogen and testosterone in control. When they are strengthened in the right proportion in your body, the possibilities of getting heart diseases are lowered.
A study proved that when a man has sex twice a week, it reduced his chances of dying by a heart attack by half when compared to men who had sex very rarely.
Again, having sex releases stress. Sex generates the feel-good hormones in your body, hence, reducing stress and releasing tension. It can even boost your intimacy with your partner and help increase your self-esteem. Other advantages that come with having sex which I can’t mention all.
Those who want to wait until marriage before having sex may face some health problems which is not the best.
Research has shown that, if you’re a woman and you stay without regular intercourse, your vagina can tighten and its tissues can get thinner and be more likely to get injured, tear, or even bleed during the time you will have sex. This can be so uncomfortable that women with these symptoms avoid having sex, which can make it terrible for them.
Also, for men, research has it that, if you don’t have sex, a chance of getting prostate cancer.
If you’re not having sex at all – research says that’s unhealthy. In fact, multiple studies have pointed to the result that “high ejaculation frequency (a.k.a. jerking off at least 4.6 to seven times a week) is linked to a lower risk of prostate cancer”.
Therefore you should involve yourself in this practice for the sake of your health.
The point is not that everyone should have sex before marriage but this becomes a decision for everyone as to whether they want to have sex before marriage or after marriage.
The majority will go for before marriage since sex has lots of health benefits. When you decide to go in for the traditional way that waiting till marriage is the best then that’s your choice. Whiles, it may be good for someone, it’s simply not good for almost everyone.
I think sex before marriage, comes with its dilemmas especially religious effects whiles having sex after marriage too has its outcome.




















